Oh my gosh, I love all of this! Hopefully I will read the book... one day, when I’m not so busy parenting two very small kids of my own (that day comes, right?!).
This paragraph really struck me, as a therapist who’s taken so many psychology classes about attachment:
“So much theorizing about attachment and parenting is based on the study of the mother-infant pair, as if they exist alone in space—no siblings, no extended family, no social pressures. Anyone who has more than one child knows that it is impossible to meet everyone’s needs at the same time, all the time. Or even most of the time—at least not without help.”
YES. I like attachment science but we really need to expand who our attachments are with! Once I had my second kid, it felt so overwhelming to try and attend to both their needs and I would end up feeling so frustrated. I’m so grateful for the help of others when we have it.
Also I think I’ll be citing your article again in my post this week 😆 - along this same theme of needing others in the village to make it in parenting and how it’s helpful to have the child understand the communal value of attachment. Beautiful! Thanks for a great interview.
Oh my gosh, I love all of this! Hopefully I will read the book... one day, when I’m not so busy parenting two very small kids of my own (that day comes, right?!).
This paragraph really struck me, as a therapist who’s taken so many psychology classes about attachment:
“So much theorizing about attachment and parenting is based on the study of the mother-infant pair, as if they exist alone in space—no siblings, no extended family, no social pressures. Anyone who has more than one child knows that it is impossible to meet everyone’s needs at the same time, all the time. Or even most of the time—at least not without help.”
YES. I like attachment science but we really need to expand who our attachments are with! Once I had my second kid, it felt so overwhelming to try and attend to both their needs and I would end up feeling so frustrated. I’m so grateful for the help of others when we have it.
Also I think I’ll be citing your article again in my post this week 😆 - along this same theme of needing others in the village to make it in parenting and how it’s helpful to have the child understand the communal value of attachment. Beautiful! Thanks for a great interview.